Know Your Cheerleaders

This is my grandson. Brandon is an interesting and at times complex youngster, and  there is something about him I sincerely hope he takes into all the stages of his life, including adulthood. He sincerely is glad for other people when they do well.

His mother will paint something and he will say “mom, that is a real nice painting” Or he’ll visit for a meal and compliment the chef.

Brandon is a “cheerleader”.

We have joked about this picture that his dad just told him he got a new building contract, or some other good thing happened. It would be his happy reaction -rejoicing in another person’s good fortune.

It has made me think about the whole idea of why are we glad when certain people in our life do well, and, why there are some people who are truly happy for us when we’ve experienced something good.

I think it has to do with hope.

When someone we identify with, or share values with, succeeds or is placed into a position of authority or leadership, we are glad. I think we are almost as glad for ourselves as we are for that person.

Think about politics (okay, not too much, but it’s a good example 🙂 ) when a person is elected to office that we agree with we “feel” good. We begin to expect good things.

So, think about this question, “Who are your cheerleaders?” Is it a spouse, child, friend, co-worker? Why do you sense they are sincerely happy for you when things are good for you?

It doesn’t have to be a big event either. Perhaps it is a piece of music you’ve been learning to play. You practiced, have gotten the pattern of notes and finger movement down on the flute or piano and you finally can play that piece with ease and it sounds musical.

What do we do? We share it with someone we know will actually be glad, they may not even play an instrument, but they are glad for us. One reason certainly must be that they know when their turn comes, and it will, they will have a recipricol experience – you’ll be there for them.

Our cheerleaders are our cheerleaders because they have hope through us. They are able to have hope in their own future. Shared empathy in the good times of life is foundational to being able to share sorrows and give strength to someone during the difficult times of life.

Notice the order in this simple and direct instruction:

Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.

Romans 12:15

Warren Bennis is his book titled Becoming A Leader says it this way:

“… followers need from their leaders three basic qualities:

They want direction

They want trust

They want hope.”

So, know your cheerleaders, know who they are, why they are “cheering” for you, and take care of them. They have hope for themselves through you.

  1. Betsy says:

    I agree wholeheartedly. And I have to add this: you’re one of my biggest cheerleaders.

  2. Tony Paquette says:

    Kevin,

    Thanks for re-opening my eyes and reminding me of the importance of knowing/taking care of our personal cheerleaders.

    Thank you for your gift of sharing.

    Tony

  3. kjr says:

    Why thank you!!

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